Why not??

... Not too long after we were wed, my husband (lets call him Adam, not his real name) joined the Army. Insanely proud of my husband, I sent him off to training (which he had to participate in twice due to a broken foot). I was still at that age where a little physicallity goes a long way and lasts a long time. I was also in the mindset that it would be disrespectful to take care of myself while he was away. I wasn't one of those crazy women where "it's cheating". It's not cheating. There's no other person involved. How could it be cheating? So I went on my merry days living on the memories of the last time I got to visit with Adam. When we moved to his new station, we soon learned that he would be deployed to Iraq. When he left, it was several months before a very simple thought crossed my mind. "Well, shoot. There's no way he's not taking care of himself." So, I said to myself, "Self, what the hell."...

I like to dream...yes yes

When we're children, we romanticize the men we're going to marry; how it will be all sweetness and flowers. We imagine that we'll "make love" to our husband every night, eat breakfast in bed every Sunday, dine in candlelight on every anniversary. Well, wake up Ladies!! It's not all roses and daisies. Even if a relationship starts out that way, we all know it won't stay that way forever. "This one will be different." No, it won't. But, that's OK. The hard part is finding a guy we'll still want to hang out with after all the fun has gone away. I've been married for seven years. When I was packing up my things from my father's house to move into my new place with my husband (no, we didn't live together before), I ran into my secret hiding place. I reminisced for a minute over an old necklace, a ticket stub, a picture of my friends from high school. But, then I ran across something I had to consider. What would it be like in my new marriage? Would I be physically happy forever? Would I never be "lonely" when he goes away on business? Would I never be "lonely" when he goes to the grocery store? For a few minutes I sat there thinking about how the future would turn out. About how my evenings would go. I decided, "I guess it won't hurt anything just to hang on to it," you know, for old times sake. I laughed to myself and put it in the box with other female things that I knew my husband wouldn't go through. To be continued...